tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573847347018616549.post3388258900027072741..comments2023-07-17T07:58:01.771-07:00Comments on Mythical Magpie: Fear and Self Limitation - Part 1 OriginsMythical Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10982194221523533192noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573847347018616549.post-87992919472359801222013-06-29T12:42:01.985-07:002013-06-29T12:42:01.985-07:00I would also like to add something I learned about...I would also like to add something I learned about personal growth and dealing with people who use trauma from thier past as a form of staying in victimhood and co-dependency.<br /><br />I think throughout our life we are often attracted to social circles that we can identify with. Like does attract like and when we try to grow, we can find ourselves surrounded by people who are not going the same direction we are (I speak specifically of rising out of co-dependency and self-fear, here.) Sometimes, when we rise above our own personal demons, we can find that those closest to us will try to knock us right down and can almost hinder our own personal growth.<br /><br />I wanted to share an awesome book called "Boundaries and Ralationships", by Charles Whitfield that talks about learning to protect yourself from people mired in co-dependency while still being understanding and loving. <br /><br />There's a Buddhist author called Pema Chodron who calls this principle "Firm Compassion". <br /><br /><br />It also helps to find people who are in the places you want to be and kind of use them as a role model. (About 2 years ago, I purposely sought out people who never complained or never made excuses for ANYTHING. This was something I really wanted to overcome...and I can say. It was one of my best decisions. I now have a decent network of independant and fearless people that I can talk to and who remind me of the places I want to be)Christina Marvelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637381386270527268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573847347018616549.post-3559489220952352572013-06-29T12:23:26.994-07:002013-06-29T12:23:26.994-07:00It was a very brave and fearless thing you did to ...It was a very brave and fearless thing you did to post here, Magpie. Congratulations on the self discovery and working on yourself. <br /><br />I would like to add that fear also comes from adult negative experiences. For example, I've heard from a lot of my friend who suffered painful break-ups, a crippling fear of dating again. Also, don't forget failures and lack of social support. <br /><br />It's kind of a cool coincidence that I read this today, right after I took a Teen Asset training at my work. Accorting to studies, the more social assets (things like role models, engaging interaction with peers and superiors, encouragement, having time to do joyful activities, ect.) that people have, the more likely they will make better life decisions: such as overcoming fears and making nourishing social connections and life choices.Christina Marvelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637381386270527268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573847347018616549.post-29344765260418620452013-06-27T10:56:43.564-07:002013-06-27T10:56:43.564-07:00I big red <3 you... I appreciate your efforts t...I big red <3 you... I appreciate your efforts to reclaim your fearlessness - I have been working on that for a long time, so I can claim at least a little progress :) Sometimes I think it's not so much about being fearless (which still includes recognizing and acknowledging 'danger' and being appropriately cautious and prepared), but rather much more about embracing the wonder of discovery (or re-discovery) of all the experiences of life - very much like the infant/toddler of our beginnings. Another thing I read recently said that one of the ways we miss out on fulfillment is by not knowing what we want - all experiences, whether negative, neutral, or positive, give us insight into what we want our lives to be. Sometimes, the best we come away with is what we know we Do Not want in our lives. There's the tricky bit - re-framing our fears/insecurities into useful information, and taking away its power as a modifier of our behavior.Tiogar aka Lisa Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07522340251750473076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573847347018616549.post-32261681152357112442013-06-27T09:09:46.273-07:002013-06-27T09:09:46.273-07:00Love this. Love this. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15065774584847230352noreply@blogger.com